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About John Bacon Gilbert


Who we are

Mental health is a human right, not a privilege.

My partner and I sat down over coffee and discussed what we would do if we could have any career in the world.  It was no surprise to either of us, if I could do anything in the world I would be a therapist.  I’ve had a lot of passions in my life, I still do, but finding a career as a therapist does not feel like work. 

The development and growth of my clients brings me so much joy.  As a young parent I served as a shipboard fire fighter in the Coast Guard, later I became a small business owner.  I rolled up my sleeves, moving from contractor to IT system analyst.  Today I have the honor of finding my passion as a therapist. 

The highest compliment I can receive is when a couple reaches an increased level of connection with one another that they have not previously experienced. It’s a blessing to be able to find joy, peace, and a true sense of purpose in this work.

When I first learned about Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), I was in awe. Suddenly thoughts, feelings, and behaviors in previous relationships began to make sense. Consequently, it became clear why my relationships felt disconnected, lacked transparency, and felt lonely. I was immediately hooked on EFT and couldn’t wait to learn more.

As a result, my aim as your therapist is to share the same experiential change that I felt with EFT.

John Bacon Gilbert
What we do

Emotionally Focused Therapy

Although EFT is a relatively new type of therapy,  it is grounded in Attachment Theory. Attachment Theory was first introduced by Dr. John Bowlby more than 70 years ago. Like Dr. Bowlby, we believe a secure connection is not only needed for children age 0-5, but something adults need as well. Although we learn all sorts of behaviors that may deny our desire for connection, we believe most clients need it.

I have been fortunate to learn from two of the absolute best emotionally focused couple therapist in the world. For the past couple of years I have learned directly under Dr. Lisa Palmer-Olsen and Dr. Scott Woolley.  I continue to develop skills and knowledge in specialized training with George Faller and Dr. Jim Furrow.

In my spare time I enjoy spending time with my wonderful partner and our young family, traveling, hiking, socializing with friends, running, fishing, reading, and exploring our beautiful city.

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5252 Balboa Ave, Suite 204 San Diego, CA. 92117

Operating Hours

Monday – Friday (9:00 AM – 5:00 PM)

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